You question its everlasting nature because you associate it to doing. If love will be an activity it cannot be forever for no activity can be unlimited. All actions are done in a time frame and they are limited by it. The state of no action is the point from where you enter into the realm of oneness, from where you get entry into your being.
Love is that existential everlasting fulfillment from where actions arise out of love, then these actions become expressions of love, but they are not love, then the actions happen effortlessly for the purpose of sharing as compassion, this is the state of no action for there is no individual doer, they just happen through you.
Actions happening in love are creative in nature such actions transcend all time and duality and they exist for all times in the Totality. Whatever I am speaking, is not only reaching you, but in its subtle form will transcend all time and space, these are existential mysteries.
Those who associate love with the doing and not with the being, are the people who are sentimental, and that is a disease. Sentimental people can never be in love. It is these people who, when they love, they go to any extremes in doing and when they face something that does not meet their favor; they go to the other extreme, withdraw all love and become enemies, but love has nothing to do with doing. You can not withdraw love, if it is there, it is there for all times. You have to be sensitive not sentimental.
You have to work towards your sensitivity. Today we are so insensitive that we do not feel for anyone, we have no care and concern for others. You have to be sensitive with all your senses broadening their vista. Not only you have to develop the five senses of touch, hear, sight, smell and taste you are familiar with, but also you have to develop your intuition-सहज बोध. Realization is nothing but complete sensitivity.
The senses are not only outside, they spread within too and whatever is within reaches outside also, therefore actually there is no bifurcation, only they become more subtle. If we take up just the sense of touch to see how much it matters to us, we shall see its spectrum. We love the feel of a loving touch, but is it only that? Everything around us is touching us, contacting us and responding us, but we are too preoccupied to even notice it, even the inanimate things around us are touching us and affecting us. When we are walking, not only that we are touching the ground, the ground is also touching us, but we have never seen things from the other’s point of view. Then the subtle things like thoughts and feeling touch us and have their impacts on us. Even if we focus on one sense, i.e. touch our sensitivity increases. We have to work likewise on all our senses and most importantly on our intuition because it becomes all the more subtle.
Love is not an individual’s freakiness, a fantasy, a fever. It is a happening of the totality, a universal happening all inclusive, whether it is the people, or objects or the nature, everything included. Deepak Chopra in his book Synchro Destiny says that each thought is connected to a network of thoughts and can produce intense results. He gives the example that a tiny being like butterfly fluttering its wings at a sea shore can create waves that may unite with similar ones that could result in producing such great force that it may cause a tsunami at some other sea shore at the other end of the world. Who would think that it was all started by the flutter of the wings of a butterfly? Such is the interconnectedness in the nature.
Love between a man and a woman is the greatest challenge. Man and woman represent the extreme poles of duality, so the attraction is also the maximum and at the same time the challenge is also the maximum. Their energies differ and they are not like the other. Your concern, your care could be coming from feminine energy, its execution from masculine energy. Your thoughts, your reasoning are masculine energy; your intuition is feminine energy. You have to create a balance in these energies. There is no need to change them, there is need to recognize them and organize them in a way to create harmony.
Whenever there is an effort to change the person the conflict arises. You don’t have to change anyone, you have to accept and respect the others energy. Now you may say that there are things that bother you, should you do nothing about it? You have to accept this difference, this inconvenience and live with it. When you accept and live with it gracefully, you get a solution from within that itself. You have to have concern and care for the other. When you are open to the other your energies intermingle and gradually a harmony is created. It is often found that a relationship develops and deepens, when two people have been together for a considerable length of time with mutual acceptance and respect then their relationship are such that they even become like the other.
People are always in a hurry and they do not give their relationship enough time to take roots. The deeper the roots go, the better the relationship thrives and blossoms. People in hurry change their partners thinking that this person is complex. But are not all individuals complex? You will find another and you will find that too complex. How will you find who is complex and who is not? All individuals are equally complex. So changing partners is not going to solve anything. You work on your relationships and they will work for you.
The institution of marriage came into existence to facilitate the relationship so that the two people together work out their relationship to reach such synchronization, that they attain their oneness. But in the course of time marriage became utilitarian and it lost its purpose and the outcome of such utilitarian attitude was exploitation. It has now become mutual exploitation and this utilitarian attitude has penetrated into all relationships, whether it is family, whether it is friendship, everywhere. Considered to be the purest of the pure, relationship between the mother and the child has also lost its sheen and has turned loveless and this utilitarian attitude has to go for it is making all relationships shallow and thus destroying the very essence of relationship and the purpose of relationship is defeated. You need to drop all utilitarian attitudes to make the relationships meaningful.
Man and woman together are open to all possibilities right from going down to animalism and rising up to Godhood. Since all the possibilities are open there, hence the challenge is also great. How you associate with the other, how you develop mutually to attain Godhood is the actual challenge.
In the past, there have been people who thought that if a relationship is so much of a complication then we will not enter into it and they became escapists. There are sadhus, even today who won’t even allow a woman’s reflection near them. They are scared; they are scared of themselves, may be not sure about themselves.
Then there are others who say all right, we will enter into this only but unconditionally. Now this again is escape for you are escaping from any commitment, any responsibilities. This gives rise to chaos and distorted relationships and breakups without achieving the aim of relationship, without evolving and blossoming into love. Unconditional love has also become a condition in today’s society.
The aim of togetherness is neither marriage nor otherwise. The aim is to accept and respect the other without trying to interfere and change the other, then it can be into marriage or without it, it does not make much difference. The beloved becomes a window to experience the entire existence. The purpose is to transcend all duality and be one continuous expanse where there is no other. When the other does not exist, then that is the fulfillment of love.
In love, you are together not because you want something from the other, but because you are so fulfilled you want to share.
Love is not a flower that blossoms in the morning and withers away in the evening. It is a flowering that goes on and on, seamlessly bringing in new colours and new fragrances into the eternal happening of love.
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